Semantics: A View of Selfishness and Other-Centeredness from Bible Stories

Some indexed words relating to sin in the book Christ's Object Lessons: self-righteous, self-exaltation, selfishness, self-serving, self-sufficiency, and separation from God the sinners desire. None of these words are"other centered," I opine that other-centeredness is exactly the core message of Christ's character, the Father's character, the Holy Spirit's character and the core message of the entire Bible wrapped in the statements Jesus said to Nichodemus, you must be born again, "from self-centeredness to other centeredness." Much is written by Mrs. White about what sin is but not God killing off his children if they don't become like Him. I don't see that message in any object lesson of Christ. Finally, in the book Education, page 103: "All things both in heaven and earth declare that the great law of life is service (other centeredness)." If this is the great law of life in both heaven and earth, as she writes, how then can this be a narrow view of God?